Dis-chord: Public Displays of Narcissism
Don't knock the piano players. We strive for harmony.
Thanks to Robin Stewart of GenStack for sharing a link to my last article where I listed free genealogical resources. That link was a nice gesture, and it brought more followers and subscribers my way. I just hope all you new folks understand that genealogy is just one rabbit hole that I dig for myself on the weekly. I also write about digital assets (such as websites and domain names), gardening, food, and personal "stuff" that pertains to my life at the moment.
That said, I am happy to find more folks who are seriously into genealogy and I am reading your emails. Good to meet you all, and if I missed adding your subscription to my reading list, don’t hesitate to nudge me.
A narcissist approached me this past week, noting publicly that I made an error in an entry at WikiTree. Please know I don't go around blindly diagnosing people. I have very little expertise in the way of successfully accomplishing that feat other then my own ten+ years of therapy (thanks to a combination of my narcissistic mother and the inability to diagnose my autism until age 50). I also worked in an alcohol and drug rehab for five years, where the head honcho there also didn't pick up on my autistic ruminations, my stimming, and my inability to work with a team. Although I learned a lot at that job, my experience is basement-level at best.
So I was excited to learn a way to pick a narcissist out of a crowd, thanks to recent therapy sessions for depression last fall. My therapist said, "You can usually sniff out a narcissist by their keen sense of competition, even if it's with her own daughter, a best friend, and--in a most likely battleground for the narcissist hoping to win--with strangers on the Internet.”
I want to refine that statement even more. In my opinion, there is a difference between a person who plays the piano (like me), and a professional pianist. Most of the time, the competition that comes after me comes from the person who also can play the piano, and not professionally. In my experience, never do public critiques come from professionals, because professionals usually provide support—not critique—and they usually provide that support privately. Just know your cards have been played, narcissists. We know you by your public displays of one-upmanship.
On a sad personal note, a buyer paid to pick up my Chevy for auction. The dude wrote the check on the hood of my best friend, and I had to kiss her goodbye forever shortly after. Now I'm without a vehicle, but I have time to purchase. Nothing is so pressing that a friend or two and my daughter can’t help me maneuver through to the holidays. I'm blessed. I didn’t have to ask.
Also, the insurance assessor and my contractor finalized plans for a new roof this next week, as a 24 September 2024 tornado that passed over my house did some serious damage. This house needs a lot of work. At the moment, I think it’s a good idea to work from the top down over the next few months to fix a few things. This is not a trickle-down plan, mind you.
I also have plans for my knees, because the gel injections worked, but the osteoarthritis in my knees' is outpacing the gel’s capacity to help ease the pain. I'll see a surgeon mid-November to talk about the first knee replacement. I also learned I have bursitis in my left shoulder, just like my mother. Now that I know what the problem is, I’m willing to do anything to remove the pain. Physical therapy began last week.
My domain name purchase plan is in full swing. One domain is available for sale right now at Sedo, and several more will become available on the first of December. I just purchased ten more domains, bringing the total to over 25 domains altogether. AI came up with some interesting options this time, especially when I asked about domain names for preserving food, specifically for fermentation.
Fermentation is going to be my winter sport. I'm already making my own yogurt, kefir, and kombucha. Next is sour dough. Then, I want to learn how to make kimchi. All this probiotic food focus is forcing me to clean out my pantry to make room for a myriad of glass jars. This is a good thing.
A side note: Most of us have about one more month to plant rooted trees and shrubs. This practice might go against common sense, but it's the best time to plant trees and shrubs. During the winter months, when above-ground growth is limited by colder weather, the roots have time to establish themselves. Be sure to mulch once you've planted, and avoid "volcano mulching" where you cone it up around the trunk. Flat is good.
This next week I'll focus on a content development calendar for the domain names that I intend to keep. And, no, I still haven't generated privacy policies or any other legal docs for those sites, so I'll get those out of the way as well. I’ll share what I learn next week.
Speaking of next week, daylight saving time will end for the year at 2 a.m. local time on Sunday, 3 November 2024, when we "fall back" and gain an extra hour of sleep. After almost 70 years of falling back, I’m through with time changes. Aren’t you?
Hope you have a great week and please be kind to yourself.
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